“Skinny is in”. I look at myself in the mirror and realise the only size 6 I’m getting on is if I put jeans over my arms and don’t attempt to fasten them around my shoulders. Yes, I realise ‘thin’ is the new fad, but when hasn’t it been?

 

Women beat themselves up day in and day out to look thinner and more beautiful than the day before, putting themselves through diets and cosmetic surgery. But to what end? Does this actually make us happy?

 

I ask you the same question that I ask myself. How is it that saying to someone “gosh you look thin” is a compliment, and “you look fat” is the worst insult known to women? Why is it so bad to be a bigger size? The older I get, the more I realise- “screw it”, I’m going to be curvy and happy the rest of my life. I either embrace it or hate my life.

 

I look in the mirror and personally I am not very happy, but then I realise that when it comes to men/women and my choice of who to ‘sleep’ with; I am completely and utterly in control. They don’t care what size I am. As long as I act confident and in control. That is what sexy is to other people. Think of yourself as though you are someone you have just met. What you want to see in them is what they want to see in you.

 

I want to see someone confident, sexy, someone that moves their body as though they know it. I don’t care if they are a size 6 or 16. Confidence is sexy and we need to realise, what is hot is not our body shape or size, but the way we can use it.

 

I always say to myself, there are worse things than being fat. I know almost every woman will at some point call themselves fat, and, to be honest, it’s a disgrace. We as women need to embrace our bodies, no matter what size they come in. All women are sexy, we have curves, we have hips, we move in ways that men cannot, and I’ve found that we can always surprise men sexually.

 

Women should express their voices; tell your partners what you like. Tell them how to touch you. Don’t be afraid. No matter whom it is, or how hot they might be. They are lucky to touch you because you are beautiful, no matter what you may look like. Remember, a beautiful person isn’t measured by their looks but by the presence they give off.

 

Yes, I can’t fit a size 6 on my hips, probably not even over my shoulders. But I am embracing my body and I will make the most of what I’ve got. Sex and confidence is for everyone, screw everything you know and have forced yourself to believe. Embrace yourself and embrace your body. An orgasm is for everyone, regardless of your body size!

 

Remember: everyone looks the same in the dark. And any hole is a goal. (Vulgar but true).